Why Guys Don’t Find Me Attractive: 10 Ways To Be More Attractive

I’ll explore why guys don’t find me attractive in this post. I’ll also explain how to be more attractive. I’ve been told I’m a good-looking person, but I can’t shake the feeling that my appearance isn’t enough.

As I investigate why guys don’t find me attractive, you’ll see that it isn’t just about looks. In my case, it’s not just that I don’t have a great or even a good body. It’s that I don’t have great features.

Just as you’ll learn why you don’t see yourself as attractive, so will guys see me through their own prism of belief. Even when they aren’t deliberately ignoring me, I’m not very attractive in their minds.

You might be surprised by the things that are holding you back from being more attractive. In fact, some of them may be surprising to you!

7 Surprising Things Why Guys Don’t Find Me Attractive

Sometimes, you think that a guy has been flirting with you, and then he turns around and says, “Nah, I don’t find you attractive.” Why? Here are 7 reasons why guys might not find me attractive.

1. He’s Not Physically Attracted To You

Some guys are more physically attracted to a woman with a model’s body. Others may be more attracted to a more plus-size woman. And then some are attracted to women of all shapes and sizes.

So, if you are one of those women who would like to know why some guys don’t find me attractive, it is because they just aren’t attracted to your body type. 

2. He Doesn’t Want To Hurt You

Another reason some guys don’t find me attractive is that they don’t want to hurt you by telling you that they’re not interested in a relationship with you. They know that telling you that they find you unattractive would likely result in you feeling disappointed and rejected.

Some may feel bad for their inability to make themselves want to be in a relationship with you, or at least not find a way to make you feel confident that he’s attracted to you.

3. He Doesn’t Want To Commit To You

If he’s not attracted to you, then he doesn’t want anything else to do with being in a relationship with you. He might think it’s better or easier for him just to keep things casual.

By making casual, he means that there isn’t any pressure externally on him (i.e., by you) to enter into a committed relationship. But that casual thing is not what he’s looking for!

4. He Doesn’t Like You

Some guys don’t find you attractive because they just don’t like you. And that’s why they are telling you that they’re not attracted to you. They might be lying and just saying it to make YOU feel better because they hate themselves and would rather have someone close to them be in a relationship with them.

Or maybe he’d feel better if his parents married his cousin rather than him getting married to the woman of his dreams and life (though if I were his parent, I wouldn’t care since I’d be furious at him rather than making my daughter happy).

5. He’s Just Not Into You

Another reason why some guys don’t find me attractive is that they are not attracted to you. They don’t know if they’re gay, straight, or bi and are just not interested in anything to do with being in a relationship with you.

6. He’s Just Not That Interested In Women

Another reason some guys don’t find me attractive is that they’re just not interested in women. They want to be single and enjoy their life as men without feeling the pressure of having to settle down into a serious relationship with anyone soon.

7. He’s Just Not Into You Like That…Yet…

And then there’s the last reason that some guys don’t find me attractive: they might be just not into you like that yet. They know they’ve found more attractive women in the past but are still not sure if they truly have feelings for you.

They feel an inclination to have feelings for you but are not sure if those feelings will translate into a romantic relationship with someone like you.

How Do I Get A Man To Find Me Attractive? 10 Ways To Be More Attractive

Here are 10 ways to be more attractive and attract men: 

1. Move Your Body More

Facial expressions are important, but so is moving your body. You don’t want to be that girl that’s hiding behind her hands, arms, legs, and face the whole time because you’re afraid of what people think about you. Instead, smile when talking to a guy who finds you attractive.

Make your eyes pop and stand up straight with confidence so that you appear more confident around him! It’s going to take some practice for you to feel more confident about yourself in terms of your body language so that any guy who is attracted to you will also find you more attractive.

Guys Don't Find Me Attractive
Guys Don’t Find Me Attractive

2. Laugh More

Laughter attracts men (though it can also scare them away). Do you know that most men laugh more frequently around women than women laugh around men? You’d think it would be the other way around, but that’s why guys don’t find me attractive!

Women are too uptight and serious. They don’t want to come off as desperate or needy, so they’re quiet while they watch the guys they like. But if you can figure out how to laugh more and find things funny, you’ll make it a lot easier for guys who find you attractive to like you- and stay with you- for a longer time period.

3. Feel Confidence In Yourself

You should feel confident in yourself when it comes to being attracted to men. You don’t want to be that insecure girl who’s worried or stressed out about being with a guy.

No one wants to feel like they’re on top of the world, especially when it comes to the dating world. When you feel confident about yourself, you’ll be more attractive to guys who find you attractive.

4. Make Him Laugh

If a guy who finds you attractive happens to be around, try your best to make him laugh. You can do this by telling a joke, making fun of yourself, or asking a silly question. If he doesn’t find you attractive after that, then he’s not even worth it anyway!

5. Wear Something That Makes You Feel Good

It’s all about self-confidence. If you wear something that makes you feel good, then you’ll attract men who find you attractive. That includes feeling beautiful, cute, sexy, and anything that makes you feel like the woman who’s ready for anyone to find her attractive to be with.

6. Let Him Know What You Like

If you can tell a guy who finds you attractive what it is that you like about him, then he will think more highly of himself for having such a positive effect on you!

He’ll feel more confident about his appearance and self-esteem if he knows he has someone who values everything.

7. Be Yourself (But Be More Attractive)

If he’s not attracted to you, then he isn’t going to be attracted to you if you act just like the people who aren’t attractive because they’re too insecure, too uptight, or too looking to blame someone else.

If a guy doesn’t like you, that’s because he likes the version of you that isn’t being shown yet, and that’s him being attracted to himself.

8. Make Him Want You More

Some men are competitive and don’t want the attention of someone who is able to draw more attention than they do. They want more than what they have because they know they can be better than others who are also drawn into their world.

If you can make a guy who finds you attractive want you more, he’ll realize that there’s a possibility for him to want to be with you and that he can’t let another man get you before he even knows if he wants to be the one to have you in his life.

9. Be Confident

No matter what situation or circumstance, never let anyone make you feel like you’re less attractive than anyone else. Even if a guy who doesn’t like me ever tells me I’m not attractive, I laugh it off because, as far as I know, it doesn’t matter what others think about me personally or my appearance because some of them will find me less attractive than someone else. They’re not the ones I’m interested in!

10. Be Yourself, Even If It’s A Hot Mess

I always say that no matter who you are or what you do, if you never put yourself out there and let people see the real you, then they will never be attracted to the real you. If a guy finds you attractive, he’s not going to be attracted to some version of who you pretend to be all the time.

You’ll make yourself look fake because that’s what everyone does when they’re trying to make themselves look attractive to someone. You can’t hide from being attractive. You have to be you, no matter what.

The Bottom Line

In conclusion, I hope this article helped some of you out there who are trying to attract men but aren’t sure what you’re doing wrong. Don’t be shy, and don’t be afraid of being different than the average woman. Be yourself and see what happens.

Girls, tell me what you think about this article in the comment section below. Have you found any of it to be true or inaccurate? What do you think are some of the most effective ways to attract men if you’re interested in having a guy in your life that’s attracted to you? Please share your thoughts with me, would love to hear them!


2 thoughts on “Why Guys Don’t Find Me Attractive: 10 Ways To Be More Attractive”

  1. I’m 40 years this year, yet no man finds me attractive for years. I don’t know if am always too serious. It’s really affecting me physically and spiritually as a woman I am

    • Dear Chioma,
      Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post on the topic of “Why Guys Don’t Find Me Attractive.” I’m truly sorry to hear about the emotional distress you’ve been experiencing, and I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing your feelings with us.
      First and foremost, I want to emphasize that your worth and attractiveness are not determined solely by whether or not men find you appealing. Attractiveness is subjective and can vary greatly from person to person. It’s essential to remember that external validation should not be the primary source of your self-esteem.
      Turning 40 is a significant milestone, and it’s natural to reflect on various aspects of your life, including your relationships. Feeling like you’re not attracting the attention you desire can be challenging, but it’s important to explore this issue with compassion and self-reflection rather than self-criticism.
      Here are some considerations that may help you better understand your situation:
      1. Self-Confidence: Confidence can be incredibly attractive. If you’re feeling insecure or too serious, it might affect how you present yourself to others. Building self-confidence can be a journey, but it’s worth investing in. Start by acknowledging your strengths and working on any areas where you may feel less confident.
      2. Authenticity: Being yourself is crucial when it comes to attracting the right person. Instead of trying to fit into a mold or act a certain way, focus on being authentic and true to your values and interests. Authenticity often attracts people who appreciate you for who you are.
      3. Interests And Hobbies: Engaging in activities and hobbies you are passionate about can help you meet like-minded individuals who share your interests. It’s a great way to connect with people who appreciate you for who you are and may find you attractive based on shared passions.
      4. Communication: Effective communication is key in building connections. If you’re concerned about coming across as too serious, work on your communication skills. Be open, honest, and approachable in your interactions.
      5. Seek Support: If you find that this issue is taking a toll on you physically and spiritually, it might be beneficial to seek support from a therapist or counselor. They can help you explore your feelings, gain insight, and develop strategies to improve your overall well-being.
      Remember that you are a unique and valuable individual, and there is someone out there who will appreciate and find you attractive for who you are. Focus on self-improvement, self-love, and self-acceptance, and in time, you may find that your perspective on attractiveness and relationships begins to shift.
      I hope these insights are helpful to you on your journey towards self-discovery and finding meaningful connections. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any more questions or if there’s anything else I can do to assist you.
      Wishing you all the best on your path to self-fulfillment and happiness.


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