How to end a relationship with a psychopath? If you’ve been in a relationship with someone who is a psychopath, chances are they have given you some sort of abuse. You may not even know that it was abuse or what type of abuse it was.
Maybe your partner just controlled how much time you spent together. And told you where to go and what to wear and who to talk to and when. Or they might have hurt you physically in some way: hitting, slapping, kicking or pushing.
What does a psychopath want in a relationship?
They want a source of supply. They also need a place to express their aggression. They may not be aware that they are violent or mean, but they find out that this is the only way they know how to communicate, to get what they want.
If your partner displays these types of behaviors – do not blame yourself! This is not your fault. You did nothing to deserve this type of treatment, and you can get out of the relationship and make it better for yourself.
How To End A Relationship With A Psychopath?
Psychopaths can be very manipulative people, so don’t feel bad if this is the first time that any of these things have come up for you because most victims will never even realize until years later what kind of abusive person they were living with the whole time! But now that you have woken up to what was happening. Let’s get to work on ending the relationship!
Step One: Accept The Truth
Righto, you need to get your head around some truths if you are going to be able to get out of this relationship. I know you probably don’t want to think that your partner is a bad person because you still love them, but they are! I’m sorry, it might be tough to hear, but they are.
Accept that not only was the relationship abusive but that these people can actually ruin your life if you stay with them. If you don’t believe me, then check out this article from Forbes about the costs of being in a relationship with a psychopath.
They are more likely to get you involved in crime or drugs, get you pregnant, whereas they don’t want children and even make you look like the crazy one when all this is happening!
Step Two: Write A List Of Crimes That They Committed Against You
Once you start to open your eyes to what was happening in the relationship, you will start to ‘see’ all the little things that were wrong with it. This is an important part of recovery, so I encourage you to take some time away from your ex if possible and sit down and write out all the abuse they put you through.
You might want to start with the infidelity, make a note of every date they went on or text they sent to another person. If you have any saved messages, then print them out and leave them by your computer so you can see just how awful their behaviour has been. The same goes for email evidence.
Don’t forget that there may be other victims in this type of relationship, so it’s important to collect solid evidence so you can take any legal action if necessary.
Step Three: Keep A Journal Of Our Relationship
I know you probably don’t want to think about your psychopath ex-boyfriend or girlfriend ever again, but it is really important that you get the help of a mental professional to properly deal with this type of relationship. A therapist will be able to help you rewrite the story that was your relationship and rewrite it into one that’s healthy and normal.
Getting all those inappropriate things out of your head is a tough job but keeping a journal is also very cathartic for abuse victims because it helps them to let go of the awful memories.
Important Note: If you are still in danger, keep your journal locked away because it’s important that you keep all this evidence safe just in case it comes back to haunt you later on down the line!
Step Four: Rebuild Your Life
You need to start putting yourself first and spending quality time with healthy people who can give you the love and care that you need. You may even be coping with some mental health issues because this is common for people who have gone through something like this.
I know it’s easy said than done but try to hang out with your friends more often, see them regularly because I know they will be pleased to hear from you, and they can offer you some great support as well as being a shoulder to cry on.
Step Five: Know When To Cut All Ties And Move On
It may seem like I’m harsh, but if the person who abused you is still trying to contact you, then that is a sign that you need to leave them in the past and never look back.
I know it’s hard, but you can’t be with someone who is so emotionally abusive towards you, even if they did promise that they would change. Their promises aren’t worth anything because this type of person doesn’t care about anyone else but themselves.
The fact that they are still trying to contact you means that either
A) They have another victim in their life or
B) You’re stuck in the emotional abuse cycle and are prolonging your own pain.
Cut all ties because being with them will only hurt you over time, not help you heal the wounds of what they did to you.
Step Six: Never Look Back
Don’t ever look back because the only thing it will do is bring up bad memories and remind you of all the awful things that happened in the relationship.
You need to focus on your life right now, not what could have been or should have been, because this is a part of your life that is over and done with.
You don’t need to even think about them because if they want you in their life, then they will be the one who contacts you, not the other way around!
It can be tough to heal from the wounds of an abusive relationship. If you’re finding it difficult to move on, you may need some help getting your life back together after the abuse has ended. The best way to do this is by working with a mental health professional who can help rewrite your story and offer coping strategies for any residual trauma that lingers in your mind long after the abuse has stopped.
In order to get started rebuilding your life, give yourself time away from all contact with them, so they don’t have access or power over anything else in your life anymore since they’ve already taken enough from you as-is. A healthy dose of self-care – spending time with friends and family members often – will also go a long way towards helping you heal and make new memories that will replace the old ones.