In this blog post on the “She Wants My Attention But Not Me” blog, we’ll explore the idea of meeting someone who wants to be with you romantically but only wants your attention.
They’re not interested in a monogamous relationship or any type of committed one-to-one thing, but sometimes they hang around just because they want to keep you in their life.
As a guy, you can feel on the verge of losing out to them. You might even feel that you’re going to lose her to someone else, which can be an incredibly scary thought.
If you’re reading this blog post, it’s because you’re also thinking about a girl. You’re feeling insecure about whether she wants to be with you or not. Insecurities around love are common, and talking about them – especially in public – is essential for men.
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What Does It Mean When A Girl Wants Attention?
A girl that wants your attention, but not you, is a girl that craves your attention. A common misconception is that all women want to be with you when in reality, it’s just the ones that want to be with you romantically who want your attention.
The girls who only want you for your attention, when they’re out of their bubble and in the middle of reality and are trying to figure out what’s going on with them and how to deal with the situation, will gravitate towards the guys who aren’t offering any other kind of relationship than “Hey look at me.”
She’ll hang out with those guys because she needs attention to feel normal, and because you’re there, she doesn’t need to take any action. There are multiple reasons why a girl may want your attention.
One reason for wanting your attention is that you have something that she wants, and it’s not something she can get elsewhere like maybe you have a lot of money or have a lot of social statuses or could be the best kisser in the world.
It could be because you’re funny, it could be that we’re both lonely, or we’re both looking for someone new to meet up with. In all of these cases, she wants your attention.
Another reason why she wants your attention is that you’re the only one offering it. You offer something to her, whether it’s money, a better relationship, affection, or just being there for her when she needs you.
7 Obvious Signs She Only Wants Attention But Not Me
1. She Only Wants To Talk To You When She’s Got Something That She Wants
When someone who doesn’t want to be with you wants your attention, they will only bother talking to you when they need something.
For example, someone might ask you if they can borrow money, and later on, because the conversation is going well for both of you, did I mention I’m looking for a job?
2. She Plays Hard-To-Get
If a girl sees herself as being lower in the relationship stakes, she’ll act just like a guy would in order to try and get what she wants. This is one of the main things that we do as humans, whether it be turning a guy down to get his attention or assuming you don’t want me as much because I’m not as pretty/smart/etc. as the other girls.
3. She Pretends To Be Busy When She Actually Wants You
When a girl wants your attention but not you, she’s going to find any reason to hang out with you. If she’s pretending that she has plans and can’t hang out with you, then ignore her and let her know that you’re more into someone else.
4. She’s Too Clingy
Words like “love,” “devoted,” and “fond of” are usually used to describe a girl who thinks you’re her boyfriend. If she wants you, she’ll show it in different ways, such as ensuring that you’re okay when she doesn’t see you or insisting on meeting up with you all the time.
But if a girl only wants your attention and isn’t interested in your relationship, then they’ll always want to know where you are, who with, and where you’re heading next. This can be seen as an obvious sign that she only wants attention, but not a relationship, but many men will ignore this because they want to believe that the girl is feeling something strong for them.
5. She’ll Always Ask You To Hang Out With Her
If a girl only wants your attention, she’ll keep finding ways to get it, whether asking to meet up with you at random times or demanding that you hang out with her.
6. She’s Trying To Make Plans With You
She might tell you that she has something in common with you and then, later on, try to find a way for the two of you to meet up. This is a classic example of someone who wants attention but not a relationship.
7. She’s Trying To Make You Jealous
If she has someone else that she sees as a potential partner, then she’ll go out of her way to try and make you jealous. She may not always succeed in doing this, but if she does, then it’s all about the attention for her.
What Should I Do When She Wants My Attention But Not Me?
1. Make It Clear That She Doesn’t Want To Be With You
If she only wants your attention, then she doesn’t want a relationship anyway. If you think that there’s a chance that things can turn into something serious, and you think to yourself, “Maybe we can start this over again?” then choose someone else to be with.
2. Get A Life Of Your Own
If you’re really into her, then start working out and go for some runs because the only person who’s going to get your attention is you. Go out with friends and make new ones because the only person who’ll ever care about getting your attention will be you.
Do activities that you enjoy and surround yourself with people who will be there for you instead of using you as a tool.
3. Don’t Talk To Her When She’s In Her Bubble
If you’re struggling to get over the fact that she keeps coming back even when they know they don’t really want a relationship, then stop talking to them.
You don’t want to be used, and if she thinks that she can just come back whenever she wants your attention, then it’s not worth it.
4. Talk With Her When She’s In Reality
If you want a relationship, then you need to go out and get one. If you want to spend time with people who actually care about you, don’t stay home when your friends want to hang out or do anything unrelated to your love life.
When the girl comes back, and it’s obvious that she doesn’t really want a relationship, try talking with her again but without the nonsense that stops genuine conversations.
The Bottom Line
There’s no definitive way of knowing whether someone only wants your attention or if they really want to be in a relationship with you. It all depends on the person and their feelings about the situation.
If a girl only wants your attention, then there’s no point in wasting your time. If she really wants to be with you, then she’ll make it clear that she wants a relationship.
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